The article may be difficult to read. One or more of those lies will catch you off guard and leave you feeling as cold as early morning dew in the middle of the Arctic. Do you honestly think that hardships pave the way for success in the future? These myths infiltrate society, changing our perspectives, and we frequently accept them without question. Let’s start questioning each one of the perfect little lies. Are you prepared? We will look at each one in turn.
Normal Is Perfectly Fine
The idea that being average is okay is the subject of a recent wave of internet content. It suggests that aiming high is ridiculous and that staying in bed all day to watch Netflix is in some way admirable—it is even termed self-care, if you can believe that.
This content encourages people to let go of their aspirations and simply fit in and relax. An advocate on Twitter pushes the notion it is honorable to have a regular job and that you shouldn’t bother looking for for other alternatives.
Allow me to examine the concept of “normal.” It is common to become a person of higher weight by eating junk food that is unhealthy. Dependence on prescription drugs on a daily basis is common. Eagerly anticipating weekends and holidays is common. Having a dull love life and being locked in loveless relationships are common. It is normal to clock in and out of work using a timesheet. We use Netflix as a way to avoid reality on a regular basis. It is customary to ask your boss for permission before leaving work early. It is typical to dress professionally. It is common to be heavily indebted. It is normal to feel exhausted all the time. It is common to turn to liquor for comfort.
Now ask yourself: Will you continue with this concept of normalcy after the perfect little lies? Living like this is strange; it is like being stuck in a never-ending circle that reminds me of elementary school. It is like adults pretending to still go to school. It is not a particularly thrilling idea. As Anthony De Mello once said,
“Most people are sleepy, even though they aren’t aware of it. They are born, they grow up, they get married, they have kids, and they die all while they are asleep, so they never wake up. The delicacy and majesty of this thing we call human existence is beyond their comprehension.”
You can be lucky if you stay around for long time
In society, expertise is highly regarded. Acquiring experience is prioritized in the corporate world and in job interviews. This notion may mislead people into believing that staying around will result in good fortune. Many people believe that working for a firm for a long time in the same role will eventually pay off. However, this is an outdated way of thinking.
In fact, people who rise through the ranks quickly are rarely those who have been with the company for a long time. It is conceivable that their experience is limited. Their rapid advancement can be attributed to their growth mentality, ability for teamwork, and rapid learning.
Playing for a long time doesn’t guarantee success or understanding. An adult needs more than thirty years to master a skill that a sixteen-year-old can pick up in nine months. How? online. Having access to so much information has made learning new skills much easier. Investing in Zoom coaching and receiving one-on-one instruction from a specialist may speed up your progress.
Gone are the days when one had to attend college for four years in order to acquire a basic skill. What once took four years can now be completed in ninety days by students these days.
Luck is the flip side of this idea. Cinema frequently shows quick achievement, giving the impression that success can be achieved through hard work alone. Strive instead. Accept discomfort. Go for greatness. Give your craft all that you have. Make a distinct route to share your ideas.
Having wealth and fame is a noble goal
A million social media followers is a secret goal that draws people in with the promise of stardom. It may appear ideal to walk with your pet and have everyone notice and admire it, but this is a deceptive facade. Celebrity has a negative impact on your most valuable asset, privacy.
Dan Koe recently had firsthand experience with this. His sister received backlash in the comments section of an Instagram photo he posted of her when it was posted. Dan moved out of worry for his safety, even though he was a resilient person. It is foolish to chase popularity since it compromises your privacy and jeopardizes the security of your loved ones. Eventually, what you really want isn’t attention, but real freedom.
People can make millions online in less than a year
I work in this field, and my observations tell me that very few people make seven figures online in their first year of business. One example that springs to mind is Dan Go, the fitness coach, who achieved this milestone by posting 300 times a day on average—a posting frequency that most people can’t match.
If your goal is to make seven figures online, set goals that will take five years to accomplish. Early success is conceivable but not assured. Embrace the road and find fulfillment in the quest, rather than obsessing over quick wins on the internet.
Others will arrive to save you
The government presents itself as your savior and promises to help if you vote for them. However, more often than not, it proves to be a shallow, comforting lie. You can be eligible for unemployment benefits if you lose your job, but the application process is usually difficult, and the benefits are rarely enough to meet necessities. They will do anything it takes to win your support.
In tragic circumstances, their prayers and thoughts are hardly much consolation. The same holds true for businesses that voice concerns during economic downturns or National Mental Health Awareness Month. In the end, a number on their financial reports is all that counts to them. No matter how knowledgeable you are, you are disposable in case your role becomes bothersome or they need to cut costs. Though there is discussion about a safety net, in practice, you might get a few days off, and if you are lucky, maybe some flowers. The biggest risk is putting your priorities and future goals in the hands of another person.
Take care of yourself by making an investment in your personal growth. Take charge of your destiny, or it will be seized from you.
The solution to your issues is more knowledge
Several of my LinkedIn recommendations are business administration graduates. They worked additional hours for years in the hopes that their education would help them with further issues. They have learned theoretical concepts, but they lack the insight that comes from practical experience.
There was a woman I came across who was a real achiever. She married a man whom she met in her MBA program. They now have lovely kids. Her ambition to launch a company and change the world hasn’t been realized, though. She is still struggling financially and can’t afford the ideal holidays she wants to take in Europe.
Her error was becoming captivated with the knowledge that covered her procrastination. We would all be in perfect health and driving luxury cars while sipping cocktails if information alone had the power to cure all of our issues. We are no wiser, even with the abundance of information available on the internet. In reality, we require greater exploration and action. The rest of schooling is really a covert way for mental self-gratification.
Love awaits. Be patient; your “Right” will arrive
People look everywhere for love, yet frequently they don’t find it. They try to beat the system by changing their relationship profiles and asking friends for help. Confiding in tolerant friends, they occasionally lay blame on the other gender and take comfort in old mantras like “the right one will come.” However, they swiftly come to see the reality.
That is the hard truth. The secret is a straightforward idea: become into the person you want to marry. Take ownership of your own shortcomings rather than criticizing apps, people, or social conventions. People are drawn to people who are orderly in their lives.
Simple things like tidying up after yourself are difficult for you, so you won’t draw in a compatible mate. Personal growth is the first step toward love. As soon as you start to shine, prospective partners will come around.
There is an appropriate time for this
It may seem wise to postpone your ambitions in order to transfer accountability to your future self and absolve your current self of duty. However, timing isn’t the only factor. It is a mistake to put off taking action until the “perfect moment” or to use “someday” as an excuse to put off reaching your objectives.
Dan Koe highlights the problem: if you don’t set personal objectives, society will set them for you. Society will determine your purpose if you don’t define it yourself. A real aim isn’t just a fantasy wanted for short-term satisfaction; it needs commitment and fast execution. You do really have a goal. The real question is if it is genuinely yours or if it is only an outcome of society’s Key Performance Indicators (KPIs).
A high IQ is associated with skepticism
Skepticism can lead to caution, which can help protect against being misled by false leaders. On the other hand, being overly suspicious can be misleading. Most individuals are honest and do not intend to hurt you, yet there are scammers and dishonest people. Tim Ferriss draws attention to a more serious problem with excessive skepticism: “Never allow skepticism to prevent you from trying new things or acting. When exercising skepticism, consider carefully which options to test in the real world. Consider skepticism as an instrument for progress rather than a defensive one.”
Although it may be difficult to acknowledge, skepticism may limit us by keeping us in our comfort zones, trapped in confusion, and stuck by overthinking. Instead of avoiding growth at all, it is preferable to welcome new experiences, take calculated risks, and learn from mistakes. The concepts that terrify us the most are often the ones worth exploring.
Sana Ahmed Khan is a life coach and author of multiple books from Islamabad, Pakistan. As a certified life coach and author, Sana is keen on helping women from all walks of life. Sana empowers you to overcome self-doubt, find balance, and become your best self through her guidance focused on mindful living, social skills, and personal development.
